This re-write is dedicated to the 'getting better' -ness of a friend.
I am obsessed with this footage of Kristi and Jimbo's wedding because it is a modern fairytale. Its not an extravaganza, its Kristi's 2nd marriage and she is pregnant, its not a big deal but love wins out in the end. Indonesia and Australia are plagued with interracial prejudice, that Kristi and I (orang gado2) are very much a part of (ie. the colonialism of Indonesia (until 1945), the concurrent economic exploitation of the West and migrant spouses on both sides of the border). So for me this is a dream come true.. everything works out. I can fall in love with someone who has been tortured by the constructs of my ancestor's imperialist/racist past and they can love me. I found this guilt to be an insurmountable hurdle in romance and am really glad it worked out for Kristi.
So back in Australia, Rebecca told me the story of her wedding, not an extravaganza, but also special because the wedding dress cost $10 but both of them were virgins and then I have another orang gado-gado (half SE Asian- half Australian) friend who is pregnant and I filmed her while we were talking, but the penultimate performance comes next and provides the soundtrack for the "Answer" part of the video. We draw a lipstick heart over Marisa's crushed vertebrae and she plays the planetary tuning forks, sometimes I change the order. And then as an addendum is my performance in the Qantas Lounge bathroom, I am flying back to Indonesia, and I make my wish, and write the Bahasa Indonesia wedding vow on my thigh. Added are quotes from the Qu'ran which is a text that is often used to support a nation's path to overthrow an imperial power but unfortunately can also incur racial prejudice. Love wins out in the end.